Letting Go and Moving On

Letting Go and Moving On

  • November 25, 2013

The tendency to waste time and energy “rehashing the past” and “rehearsing the future” can squeeze the present thin. Infertility has a way of overtaking the rest of life. It’s hard to be present in what you’re doing. It is said that mindfulness shifts us from being “no where” to…

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Resting in Uncertainty

Resting in Uncertainty

  • November 18, 2013

Without the medical condition of infertility, the life lessons and profound personal changes that result may have not occurred. Every time you experience guilt and shame, translate this as an “invitation for healing.” Make taking care of yourself a priority. Practice the practices, reach for support. You are carving a…

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Welcoming It All

Welcoming It All

  • November 11, 2013

Mindfulness starts from the perspective that most of our mental suffering comes from the beliefs we have, and how tightly we hold them. When you see thoughts as simply “mental formations,” they are like clouds in the sky, appearing and disappearing leaving no trace. By experiencing these thoughts from a…

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Befriending Your Body

Befriending Your Body

  • November 4, 2013

Stress and infertility are intimately related, and mind-body practices have helped couples and individuals find a deep sense of well-being. Optimal medical care requires optimal self-care. From a whole-person perspective, fertility treatments must include not only medicines and medical procedures, but also self-nurturance. Choosing a mind-body approach can feel overwhelming…

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Cultivating Qualities

Cultivating Qualities

  • October 28, 2013

Central to mind-body medicine is the practice of mindfulness. Simply defined, mindfulness is the practice of paying neutral attention to what is happening right now. Why is mindfulness helpful for infertility? Infertility tends to overshadow everything else in life, keep you focused on past and future events, exacerbate negative self-judgment,…

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Letting Go of Control

Letting Go of Control

  • October 21, 2013

Here in our western world, we believe that if something is wrong it is our fault. You’ve probably heard, “If you’d just relax, you’d get pregnant!” While the mind-body approach acknowledges that stress and infertility are related, it does not imply you are in control of what you cannot control….

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The Paradox of Mindfulness: Accepting Yourself as You Are

The Paradox of Mindfulness: Accepting Yourself as You Are

  • October 14, 2013

An essential attitude of Buddhist psychology is to recognize that at your very core, you are good and pure. This inherent worth, or Buddha nature, is present at birth and stays with you through life. The Buddhist concept of “original goodness” stands in sharp contrast to the Christian belief of…

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The Paradox of Mindfulness: Be the Change

The Paradox of Mindfulness: Be the Change

  • October 7, 2013

When we tell ourselves “I’m an idiot”, we feel embarrassed and blush. The more convinced we’re not loved or appreciated, the more we feel sad and cry. The greater the anxiety felt, the harder it is to concentrate. Thoughts impact emotions, emotions impact physiology. Emotions are physiological events that affect…

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The Paradox of Mindfulness: From Obstacle to Challenge

The Paradox of Mindfulness: From Obstacle to Challenge

  • September 30, 2013

During times of loss or crisis, it’s not uncommon to interpret others’ attempts to help as insensitive, minimizing, dismissive, or even condescending. Too often, the very group you feel closest to are those you feel most estranged from. Ironically, when support and connection is most needed, it has never felt…

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The Paradox of Mindfulness: Loving the Questions

The Paradox of Mindfulness: Loving the Questions

  • September 23, 2013

Sometimes life places us at a juncture. Do you hold on to what you have, even when it doesn’t seem to help, or do you let go and move on? Large and small personal junctures occur and reoccur, and carry the potential to shift the course of your life. Being…

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