Paradox of Infertility. Infertility is a catastrophe in every sense of the word. Yet, it is the very struggle of infertility, its diminishing of reserves in every domain that can ultimately replenish and further. It requires us to look for happiness not on the outside but on the inside. The continual contractions–through withdrawal, resentment, fear, and panic–make us thirst for expansion: trust, acceptance, peace, and finally liberation.
If you haven’t already, please read my introduction to the Paradoxes of Infertility post.
Buddhist Paradox. Everyone seeks happiness, and it is at this very moment when happiness seems lost that the human spirit will fight hardest to find it where it lives. The final paradox is that infertility is inevitably a birthing process. In the words of Robert Kaplan (1999): “If you look at zero you see nothing, but look through it and you will see the world.”
Challenge your Assumption. In a journal entry, inquire into this question: Is fertility only defined as giving birth to a baby?
“We can never obtain peace in the outer world
until we make peace with ourselves.”