“Conditional self-esteem is based on approval: outside evaluations and outcomes that determine your worth. Mindful self-esteem, on the other hand, is based on self-acceptance and self-compassion: the ability to embrace all parts of yourself in warmth, without distinction. With mindful self-esteem, even though you recognize your limitations, it doesn’t get…
Mindful Self-Esteem
Letting Go
“In fact, shifting from conditional, externally based self-esteem to unconditional, internally experienced self-esteem is primarily about letting go. As you let go of your resistance to the way things are, you relinquish unrealistic expectations that you can never meet and false interpretations that can never bring you ease” (Marotta, 2013,…
Mindful Self-Esteem
Over the last 30+ years we have been obsessed with trying to raise self-esteem, and for the most part these attempts have failed. In part, this “problem with self-esteem” is driven from a Western perspective which tends to view ourselves as defective or “in need of improvement.” We take on…


