When you cultivate the qualities for mindful self-esteem, you plant the seed of acceptance. Start by recognizing when resistance is occurring. Pay attention to whether you’ve lost connection to your breathing and body; if you’re judging, you’re obsessing, planning, fantasizing, or rehearsing so that you’re trying too hard, fighting against what’s happening, or ignoring what’s happening altogether; and if there’s a sense of struggling driven by procrastinating, racing, or fear.
Next notice when acceptance is occurring. Pay attention to breath and body sensations; if your thinking is non-reactive to the situation; and if this leads to a “lightness of being.” Allow the wholesomeness of acceptance to saturate so you’re bathed by its radiance.