When you cultivate the qualities for mindful self-esteem, you plant the seed of nonjudging. Start by recognizing when judging is occurring. Get to know it. How does it feel in the body, what thoughts arise, and what emotions manifest? Pay attention to bodily tension or tightness; if you’re thinking in value judgments such as good and bad, which cause you to make false interpretations and identify with them; and if you’re feeling the resulting emotions of worthlessness or hopelessness.
Next notice when nonjudging is occurring and get to know it through body sensations, thoughts, and emotions. Pay attention to the sensation of a relaxed body; if your thinking is void of judgment, interpretation, and identification; and if this leads to feelings of positivity. Allow the wholesomeness of nonjudging to soak in so you can remember to keep coming back, again and again.
